Making art to celebrate Bi Visibility Day

Happy Pride! Always be true to yourself  ❤

bi-pride-art

 

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#art

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Why I Need Feminism

It’s no secret that feminists are often trolled on the internet. If someone discusses women’s issues, there will be an unhappy person in the comments section equipped with insults and bigotry. There are entire blogs dedicated to disliking those who speak up for gender equality, and I just always think, don’t you have anything better to do? We each have the capacity to add something good to this world, whether it’s advanced technology or a silly drawing. A voice is special, it’s a gift, it should be used well.

Not everything I post or say or share is sunshine and rainbows, but come on people. Who has time to put so much energy into being negative?! Anywayz, I wanted to make this post because I’ve seen people post comments on other sites that basically suggest they think women’s issues aren’t real or that they basically shouldn’t be talked about, or they just say mean things to vloggers or bloggers who usually want to make the world better.

I’m not the first person to make a list like this, and I certainly won’t be the last. It’s not original, but talking about these things still matters. Here’s why I need feminism:

  1. Because every time I walk down the street I have to be aware of the fact that my gender alone makes me vulnerable to potentially dangerous people.
  2. Because several of my female friends in college carried protective items around campus, such as a self-defense flashlight or rape whistle. And those were considered normal, if not necessary precautions to take.
  3. Because victims of rape are still asked what they were wearing
  4. Because many women dislike being catcalled, feel uncomfortable and even unsafe because of it, and that dislike is pretty much always ignored
  5. Because women in other parts of the world, who I may never meet, are not safe in their own homes, communities, or countries.
  6. Because sexism still exists in STEM fields, and there are still people who say discouraging things to girls who are interested in science and tech
  7. Because trans women are given a hard time for wanting to use the restroom (seriously, can we move past this already?)
  8. Because trans women of color experience high rates of discrimination, violence and murder.
  9. Because television and magazines are filled with ads that sexualize the female body in order to sell anything from perfume to candy.
  10. Because if I ever have a son, and if he wants to play with dolls, I’m going to let him. And I’m going to be judged for it.
  11. Because women who don’t want to marry or have children are judged for it.
  12. Because having a vagina puts a variety of social pressures on me, from wearing “girly” clothes, to shaving my legs, to being told to smile, to a variety of things that have nothing to do with having a vagina.

The list goes on. People are often criticized for being vocal about women’s issues. But I also think that if you’re being criticized, especially when it is accompanied by ignorance and bigotry, you are probably doing something right.

There’s a lot of negativity out there. I hope you add something good to the world today. Because you have gifts to share with others, and you matter.

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#MyThoughts

A Love Letter To Bisexual Women

A beating heart, and a head full of

Dreams. You are spectacular. You are

Radiant. You are summer rain and

Fresh flowers that bloom in a garden

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That is full of possibilities. I know it’s

Hard at times. That maybe it took longer

Than you would have liked to live

Your truth because you thought you had

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To hide behind the lie of being straight

Or maybe loving a man has made you

Feel like you didn’t quite fit in in queer

Spaces while still not quite fitting in

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In straight spaces and so you’ve felt like

You fit in nowhere. Living on an island

Where there’s no one around who understands

How your identity has shaped you, how

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Getting to a place of self-acceptance has

Caused you to hurt and grow and break

And mend. It has made your world bigger

Maybe you still have a preference and know

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That your orientation is still valid. Maybe you’ve

Heard someone suggest that people like you

Are greedy, confused, or lying. Or you’ve heard

A woman say she would never date a bisexual

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Because she wanted to be with someone who

Wouldn’t cheat on her. Maybe the stereotypes

Have made you wonder if coming out is a

Mistake, even as you drowned in the anxiety

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Of hiding who you are from people who

Were supposed to love you. Love should

Not cause anyone this much hurt. If no

One’s told you lately, you should know

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You aren’t broken. You are brave with an

Endless capacity to be kind and strong

And filled with light. That you’ve learned

To appreciate your ability to fall in love

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With a sense of humor or a smile or

Just the right person’s presence. You

Find the beauty in it. Even in a world

That may misunderstand you, you exist

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Without hiding. And that is remarkable

Maybe there are times when you’re not

Sure of what you want, or times when

You’re still figuring yourself out, and

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That’s okay. Don’t carry around the

Burden of the myth that your whole

Life must be planned out. Let it go

And it will drift away like feathers in

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The wind and the sun will come out to

Remind you that you’re doing just fine

Maybe you’re still afraid when you meet

Someone new because you’re not sure

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If they will accept you. And if no one’s told

You lately, fear is not a sign of weakness

It is the prerequisite of courage. You have

A lion’s heart. You have wings because you

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Have set yourself free to be your best self

Truthful and unshaken. My darling, if I

Could take your hands I’d open your eyes

To the stars and I’d say, look. They shine

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For someone as lovely and beautiful as you

I know it’s hard at times, but you handle it

So well. You are the wild flowers that bloom

In the field. Different, untamed, and fearless.

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#poetry